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MOTIVATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS

Hi Everyone,

I’ve often said that being happy does not come naturally to me, and it used to really upset me. I used to think, How many more seminars do I have to go to on self-esteem? Why can’t I just coast once in a while? Well, I can’t! I know I have to do certain things every single day just to be happy. In other words, I have to motivate myself.

Last Sunday I saw a TV interview with a woman who said she has two prayers: “Please help! Please help! Please help!” and “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!” I use a similar technique to keep myself in check when I feel like complaining about tiny, insignificant things. I repeat to myself over and over again that everything happens for a reason, and that experiences of both joy AND pain are designed to help me grow and bring me closer to happiness and bliss.

I hope these and the other great tips in this month’s newsletter will help you stay happy and motivated. Thanks for helping me live my fantasy of spreading this BE NICE message and giving nice people a voice.

XOXO, Winn

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A BE NICE Story
Do you have a BE NICE story to share? Send it to editor@BeNiceOrElse.com. If it appears in the newsletter, you’ll receive a BE NICE T-shirt and CD!


The following letter illustrates something I often talk about. There are two emotions that motivate people: one is joy, and the other is pain. Don’t wait for a painful experience to motivate you to change or improve your life. Think about the joy you want and deserve, and let that be your driving force!


Dear Winn,

This past fall, my husband of 29 years left me for my best friend. At first I was racked with grief, cried all the time, and felt devalued as a human being. Then I began to see the situation as a blessing in disguise, a chance to start over.

Teaching “forward-focused thinking” was responsible for that shift. Then a series of coincidences or synchronicity began to unfold. First, I had a chance meeting with a woman I had never met before, nor would I have met had I not had to sell my house. For no reason, she had picked up an extra copy of a book called Your Best Life Now. She gave it to me and said, “I must have bought it for you.” As I read it, this message stood out: You will produce what you’re continually seeing in your mind. Be the image. Be the change. This image must become a part of you, in your thoughts, your conversations, deep down in your spirit. Know it, in your actions and every part of your being.

The miracles have already began appearing in my life. My health has been restored, and my confidence level is higher than it’s ever been. I know now that my relationship was not bringing out the best in me, but holding me back from becoming all that I can be. I now know that I am perfect the way I am, no matter what anyone else thinks. I am dreaming bigger dreams. Ordinary people do and receive extraordinary things. Everything I put my hand to will prosper and succeed. I have faith. I have found strength through adversity. I am happy with who I am and what I know I can accomplish.

Very sincerely yours,
Pamela Pruitt-Leirer

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Monthly Audio Message


After graduating from the University of Nebraska in 1986 with a Bachelor of Science degree in finance and economics, Brent Golden opted to pursue a career in the professional hair care industry. He quickly progressed from humble beginnings as a salon consultant to vice president of sales for hair care giant John Paul Mitchell Systems, where he has enjoyed 14 years as part of their team. Brent has also had the privilege of owning his own salon.

A popular speaker, Brent lectures and teaches leadership, culture, and management skills to industry professionals. As part of the management team at John Paul Mitchell Systems, a company that exceeds $200 million annually in sales, he is in a unique position to put his ideas, experiences, and teachings to work every day.

 In this month’s audio message, Brent shares the secrets of managing your energy to get more of what you want. Listen in and you’ll discover some very small changes that produce big results!


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People Profile

Chicago jazz radio personality Marsha Noble is a woman with a mission. In addition to hosting the popular JAZ’N’U show on radio station WSSD-FM, writing a column for Chicago Jazz magazine, and working with her nonprofit organization to film a documentary of Chicago’s jazz history, Marsha has created GIGLES and GEMS, two wonderful programs that help young people develop positive self-esteem.

GIGLES (Girls In Grooming Learn Elegance & Style) teaches girls ages 8 to 18 to be young ladies, prepares them for college or a career, and adds to their lifestyle by teaching proper nutrition, health, hygiene, and cultural esthetics of the arts. After two years in the Dunbar Career Academy, a Chicago public school and Marsha’s alma mater, the GIGLES program has a waiting list of 100 girls from nearby housing developments and requests from five other high schools to start the program.

“As a result of GIGLES, we just wrote a program for boys: GEMS (Guys Empowered Manifest Success),” Marsha explained. “This year our fundraiser will help us raise money so kids from all over Chicago can come to one location. It’s our dream to begin to instill values in children as early as 8 years old so we don’t have to do much work by the time they’re teenagers.”

For more information about GIGLES and GEMS, contact:

M. Noble Productions
(312) 808-0322
jazzpacemaker@aol.com

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Corporate Corner
Praise Is the Best Motivator

It’s a basic human need to receive recognition and praise. It’s a stronger motivator than money, and people will work harder for praises than for raises. To motivate your employees or coworkers, remember to serve up generous helpings of compliments and praise.

Praise must be genuine and it must be worthwhile—meaning you wouldn’t want to dish out praises without merit. Praise must also be specific. To tell someone they’re really “cool” may not do the trick, unless you’re specific about why they’re cool. Use a script such as, “I think it was amazing how you went out of your way to defuse that frustrated customer. I loved how you kept your cool, spoke softly to her, and smiled the entire time she was venting to you. It was very obvious to me and to the customer that you were truly listening to her complaint with compassion.”

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Do Something!
by Marsha Noble

In the GIGLES program, we teach our girls (and now boys) simple but important techniques for developing positive self-esteem. To motivate yourself and others, try these ideas in your own life. As I often tell the girls and boys, “Believe in yourself in all that you do, and someone else will believe in you, too.”

1. Be kind to one another, no matter how difficult it is.
   
   
2. Practice forgiveness. If you go to bed angry, you won’t rest well. When you forgive, you open up the door for forgiveness for yourself.
   
   
3. When you’re at your worst, the best thing to do is to give. When you’re empty or feel exhausted and you just don’t know what to do, take the focus off of you by putting it on someone else. When you do something for someone else, don’t look for anything in return. Just do it. It will make you feel so much better because you will have forgotten your problem. It’s a challenge when you’re tired and people are pulling at you, but when you can, do it. When you feel like you’re at your worst, do something for somebody else and it will restore you. It works every time.
   
   
4. Look at challenges as opportunities to grow. God uses us to handle challenges so when somebody else has a problem, he can say, “Well, Marsha, you handled that problem, now you can show them how to handle it.” Consider challenges a privilege. It’s not always easy, but it works.
   
   
5. No matter how difficult things may be, you’ll be surprised at how far a smile and a touch will go. People like to see a smile. Sometimes you don’t know or can’t find the right words to say, but a simple touch goes a long way. If you can put those two together, a smile and a touch, you’ll be surprised at how easy you’ll make it for somebody else to handle whatever they’re dealing with.
   
   

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Quote of the Month

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing—that’s why we recommend it daily.”
— Zig Ziglar

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